Originally Posted by ratbastid

In my experience (and I'm in a 16-year relationship, married for 11, so I'm not just some guy on the street about this), the sexual arena is where other issues in the relationship get played out. I know everything else seems fine--and it may be that everything really is fine for you. But consider that maybe what's happening (or not) in bed is a symptom of other things, and it's really not about the sex so much. Other worries, other frustrations, other resentments. If not for you, then for her.