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ngdawg · 12-07-2006, 12:46 PM

OK, so...back the to defiant 6 year old of the OP....
Funny thing about 6 year olds-they don't know how to lie and do so out of self-protection, not realizing the ramifications. I would not, however, treat these incidents as him being led into doing what caused the lying, but rather, address both the action and the lying to cover up without bringing in the other child's influence. It's a time to find out about choices, why he made them, why he felt he had to lie about them.
While this might not be the case( since I don't know how his everyday behavior is), I'd also look into food allergies if his behavior has changed recently for the worse. Has he been on, say, a hotdog kick lately? Processed cheese or maybe caffeine? If so, has his schoolwork gone downhill as well as his recent behavior? If you suspect behavorial food allergies, do a simple 3 days with followed by 3 days without, preferrably the 'with' covering a weekend to see if there's any changes.
Ask him about his relationship with other kids in general too and impress on him that no matter what, the truth must be told so you two together can fix things, but that lying will only serve to have him punished. We stressed the truth so much here that my kids are totally not afraid of it, but one lie and the gavel comes down. Hard.

12-07-2006, 12:46 PM	#26 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	OK, so...back the to defiant 6 year old of the OP.... Funny thing about 6 year olds-they don't know how to lie and do so out of self-protection, not realizing the ramifications. I would not, however, treat these incidents as him being led into doing what caused the lying, but rather, address both the action and the lying to cover up without bringing in the other child's influence. It's a time to find out about choices, why he made them, why he felt he had to lie about them. While this might not be the case( since I don't know how his everyday behavior is), I'd also look into food allergies if his behavior has changed recently for the worse. Has he been on, say, a hotdog kick lately? Processed cheese or maybe caffeine? If so, has his schoolwork gone downhill as well as his recent behavior? If you suspect behavorial food allergies, do a simple 3 days with followed by 3 days without, preferrably the 'with' covering a weekend to see if there's any changes. Ask him about his relationship with other kids in general too and impress on him that no matter what, the truth must be told so you two together can fix things, but that lying will only serve to have him punished. We stressed the truth so much here that my kids are totally not afraid of it, but one lie and the gavel comes down. Hard. __________________ Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.