Need some advice please
Ok so pretty much I've been seeing my ex for around a month and a half to two months now. Just seeing each other, we're not back together or anything. We broke up on good terms, she was just a little bit scared of things getting serious, her being only 18 and all. She's pretty much always been the one making the plans to see each other except for the first time when I made all the moves and we had a great night together and I took the iniative and kissed her. We've been seeing each other probably twice a week or so since then, and I've slept over at her house a few times and stuff. She's been always saying stuff like i like our snuggles and you should come snuggle with me and stuff like that.
Well anyways, she went away for a few days and she messaged me on msn straight away as soon as she came on like she was happy to see me, and we talked for a bit and i asked her to a movie for friday night and she said yes that'd be nice. When i'd stop talking to her she'd be like asdihasidhasd im boooorrreeddd and I'd be like yeah great im playing playstation have fun with that. She messaged me again today as soon as I come on to say hey she was bored, and we talked for a bit & I asked her if she was still up for the movie and she said she doesn't know she might be tired from work or be going out for dinner with family or something and that she'd let me know tomorrow.
So anyways I wondered why she making excuses and I don't know why but I checked her myspace and saw her flirting with some guy she had met on her vacation and he said he was gonna be in town next week and asked her to the same movie as I wanted to go see with her and she said she doesn't know and "my ex wanted me to come see it with him, way to put me in an awkward position ! lol, g'night darllll." The thing is though a lot of the time when she makes excuses as to why she wants to cancel they really are valid excuses. Like last time she said it wasnt a good idea to come over because her cat had been hurt, and the next time I went over there the cat was really badly hurt and she spent most of her time with it caring for it because it cant walk.
But yeah anyways, I started acting all stupid & jealous about it which is the worst thing you can do, and im sure the myspace stalking didn't help (I hardly ever read her myspace, I don't really care about the boring stuff she has to say with her friends). So we had a bit of a fight about it and she said that she'd be lying if she said she didn't like the guy, but she wouldn't consider dating him because he lives too far away. The thing is though I'm pretty flirty aswell with girls I talk to, and I saw this girl I met awhile ago recently when we were at a friends birthday and she's told me before she thinks I'm hot and she grabbed me and said let's dance so we danced for a bit before she had to leave. Also, the other day on msn she was telling me she was bored and that I should come out with her that night or the next and I told her I'd be down to where she lives with a few friends in the next couple of weeks or so and I'd catch her when I was down there. I dunno if I'd do anything with her though even though it wouldnt be cheating because me and the ex aren't really back together or anything, just seeing each other.
Anyways, I know the stupid jealous stalker thing wasn't the right thing to do and will only make her like me less, so what can I do about that. Should I try and make it up for her and should I ignore her for awhile and give her space (which may piss her off more I don't know, males and females have different minds). I won't be stalking her myspace anymore, I don't know why I got jealous to be honest, I've never been jealous of her talking or hanging out with guys before because when we were together she was a good gf, and didn't cheat on me or anything.
Thanks for reading my little essay, any advice would be greatly appreciated. I'm expecting the standards WALK AWAY replies though, which I might if she blows me off a few more times. But i'd like to give it a chance and see where it goes, I'd just have to see what I can do first about being a stupid jealous stalkerish douche.
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