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I define giving as satisfying your partners wants and needs and taking as getting yours sated. While equality certainly may enter into that in many ways, it's not a given. For example, in my last serious relationship, I got a lot of massages because I loooooooove them and she loved to give them to me. I didn't give her massages nearly as much as she did me, but there were other things I did that she didn't do.
Like in a BDSM relationship, let's say one partner is only interested in tying up their partner and having their way with them. The other partner is only interested in being tied up and being had. I'd say that's equal give and take, as both are giving the other what they want, yet not sacrificing their own wants.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that relationships are about give and take, but that doesn't necessarily mean every situation is based on equality. It just means it's equal on the whole.
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