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surferlove007 · 12-04-2006, 03:25 PM

Sounds extra stressful. In all honesty it sounds like you don't trust her because you don't know whats going on...sort of you're in a lack of control position. Trust is the only way relationships work, which I'm sure you know by now.
Lemme tell you, usually your gut has an intuition telling you something is wrong, maybe she is cheating on you with some random guy and you'll never know or maybe it's nothing but fears coming to surface about losing her.
You guys should have a serious talk about it, if these feelings persist for a while then something is off and thats not good, either she is cheating or you're just overprotective and possibly jealous.
I had a boyfriend go to New Zealand for three months, unfortunately it took a severe toll on my Junior year in high school. He was very insensative to the time when to call me, usually about 4 or 5 in the morning, and would complain that I didn't love him if I wanted to go back to bed and sleep a few more hours before going to school, so I'd make the sleep sacrifce and stay up and talk. Before he left for New Zealand we were in a LDR for about a year and a few months, he would always call late at night when he was out with his friends and got home to let me know he was safe. I didn't mind because it would ease my mind, but looking back now I hate myself for putting up with interrupted sleep for nearly two years.
One night I had asked him not to call me so I could sleep the entire night, and the next day when I called him at lunch from school he went off on me, saying I didn't love him and that he hated me and that it was over. Total shocker, broke my heart and then that night he called and we made up, I should of left his dumbass right there...back to the point (sorry for the ramble) it was apparent the trust between us was fading. Long Distance is very stressful, we were fine until he started panicking about me and what I was doing, nothing by the way. It totally ruined the relationship. He constantly asked if I loved him and if I had cheated on him. Not to mention he was very insecure about his looks.
Another point, try not to appear insecure about losing this girl. If she is true, then she's most likely not doing anything behind your back, especially if she's maintaining a LDR with you while in college, which sounds pretty rough.
Y'all probably need to have a good talk about stuff if you are losing sleep over this, or perhaps take a break and get your priorities in order involving your life.
Sorry this is so long.
I know when I was with that guy for two years, I shouldn't of put up with so much stuff that he did to me, put me through, made me cry so much, felt like I couldn't live without, but I did learn that after such a trainwreck you survive, and get back on your feet. Either way this works out, you'll know what's right, and hopefully what is wrong even though you might not want to admit it to yourself.

12-04-2006, 03:25 PM	#12 (permalink)
surferlove007 Junkie	Sounds extra stressful. In all honesty it sounds like you don't trust her because you don't know whats going on...sort of you're in a lack of control position. Trust is the only way relationships work, which I'm sure you know by now. Lemme tell you, usually your gut has an intuition telling you something is wrong, maybe she is cheating on you with some random guy and you'll never know or maybe it's nothing but fears coming to surface about losing her. You guys should have a serious talk about it, if these feelings persist for a while then something is off and thats not good, either she is cheating or you're just overprotective and possibly jealous. I had a boyfriend go to New Zealand for three months, unfortunately it took a severe toll on my Junior year in high school. He was very insensative to the time when to call me, usually about 4 or 5 in the morning, and would complain that I didn't love him if I wanted to go back to bed and sleep a few more hours before going to school, so I'd make the sleep sacrifce and stay up and talk. Before he left for New Zealand we were in a LDR for about a year and a few months, he would always call late at night when he was out with his friends and got home to let me know he was safe. I didn't mind because it would ease my mind, but looking back now I hate myself for putting up with interrupted sleep for nearly two years. One night I had asked him not to call me so I could sleep the entire night, and the next day when I called him at lunch from school he went off on me, saying I didn't love him and that he hated me and that it was over. Total shocker, broke my heart and then that night he called and we made up, I should of left his dumbass right there...back to the point (sorry for the ramble) it was apparent the trust between us was fading. Long Distance is very stressful, we were fine until he started panicking about me and what I was doing, nothing by the way. It totally ruined the relationship. He constantly asked if I loved him and if I had cheated on him. Not to mention he was very insecure about his looks. Another point, try not to appear insecure about losing this girl. If she is true, then she's most likely not doing anything behind your back, especially if she's maintaining a LDR with you while in college, which sounds pretty rough. Y'all probably need to have a good talk about stuff if you are losing sleep over this, or perhaps take a break and get your priorities in order involving your life. Sorry this is so long. I know when I was with that guy for two years, I shouldn't of put up with so much stuff that he did to me, put me through, made me cry so much, felt like I couldn't live without, but I did learn that after such a trainwreck you survive, and get back on your feet. Either way this works out, you'll know what's right, and hopefully what is wrong even though you might not want to admit it to yourself.