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Live your own life. Have emotional independence. That's the best advice I can give you.
Realize that what you're doing could eventually drive her away, and if you want to keep her, you must stop. It will be hard and you may have to force yourself at first. But with time, the sick feeling will go away. You like her a lot, maybe even love her. So trust her. That's the only way you can be happy together. She hasn't given you any reason not to trust her. So do it.
If she cheats on you later, then so be it. That happens. But maybe it won't and you'll be together a great long time. Don't live your life in fear. Embrace life, with all its high and low points. Bad things don't stop happening just because you make yourself sick with worry. If she called you all the time to tell you where she is, she could be lying anyway. Even if it doesn't work out, you will continue to be alive and hopefully will be able to move on, and perhaps find someone else, different, or better.
So let it go and focus on your own goals and interests, your life, not hers.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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