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Originally Posted by Point Taken
I trust her, but I am always wondering what she is doing.
I trust her I just don't trust others.
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The anxiety is preventing you from trusting her fully, and also from realizing that
that is the problem- more specifically,
your problem. I know exactly where you're coming from- I've always battled anxiety (very bad anxiety) and when I had a long-distance relationship, I went through a lot of the same emotions. Realize that the anxiety is making you distrust her- stop lying to yourself and thinking that that isn't the case. The anxiety is making it the case.
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I wake up in the mornings sometimes very early and cannot sleep anymore. I am tired, I lay in bed feeling sick to my stomach and at times need to get up because I have the urge to vomit. Nothing but saliva comes out. I am worrying myself sick. Why?!
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Oooooooooooooh Point Taken's got a girl-friend, Point Taken's got a girl-friend! *ahem*
Dude, you care about her. That's what that is- that is the "why" you're searching for- it's not a mystical wonder of the world, you're just all about this woman! Your anxiety is beating you up because your mind is on her like white on rice... like a Star Jones on a cupcake... like Teflon on a pan. Hell, you may even love her with how severe your symptoms are. lol
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I know for a fact that she has strong feelings for me but feel as if I am luring her away by being the way that I am.
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You may eventually, yes.
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She feels she doesnt have to give me a call at 4am letting me know she is home safe. I want one just to make me feel at ease. She says I'm insane for thinking like that.
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She doesn't- but while you're not "insane" for thinking like that, you're placing personal expectations on her and then treating them as demands. And believe me- you may think you're asking nicely and sweetly, but I guarantee you're not- not when you're so screwed up over the girl that you are losing sleep and not eating.
You looooooooooooooooooooooooooove her. Let her love you back when the time comes- until then, realize that the world is still spinning, and will continue to do so no matter what happens between you two. I know you feel that it is, but her whereabouts and personal safety are not
yet your 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year concern.
If you don't let her be her own person, you will strangle her- and she will leave you for it. I don't want to scare you, but you need definitive words to snap you away from this behavior.
Think of a relationship like a breast... you can hold it and love it and lavish it with attention, but if you try to hold on too hard, it just causes pain (and that's bad).
[MOD NOTE]
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Originally Posted by Point Taken
Long time member of TFP, just need to conceal my privacy for some reasons.
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Understandable, but this is not the way to go about it... in general, if anyone is feeling like they need some posting privacy, feel free to PM a moderator about it.
I know for myself, personally, i've posted a couple of things for other members under my own name and with something to the effect of, "a member here wishes to pose a question but doesn't want their name on it" so the person can retain their anonymity.
This is mostly because we don't allow duplicate accounts per person- but also because there's no reason to register a whole other name just to jump in and ask a question of your fellow TFP'ers.
- analog. [/MOD NOTE]