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Anxieties come from a sense of not having control. We fret, we worry, our imagination takes over in negative ways....'what ifs' start to fill our heads...all fed by insecurities.
I agree that part of it that you don't trust her enough; perhaps thinking there's 'someone better' that's going to sweep her away because you're not there to stop it or good enough to be the 'one and only'....
If you don't pull back and relax, your thoughts are going to be self-fulfilling prophecies. Keep in mind, she chose YOU. And, even realizing how you are, still chose YOU.
You need something that completely occupies your time and your head. Funny thing about anxiety, the more we realize we have it, the more it takes us over. So, we have to get rid of it. Join something. A theatre group, a book club, take art classes in the evening, join a gym. When the feelings start their negative impact, read a book, go jogging or to a movie. This will actually accomplish a few things; it will occupy your time, it will give you something to talk about and it will put you 'out there' among others. Then, instead of "Yea, hi, was thinking about you all day..." it will be, "Yea, I went to see that new movie"....
YOU have the power to control YOU, not anyone else. You also have to realize that you are good enough for someone to be interested in enough to be your girlfriend.
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Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.
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