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Well, I'm not exactly sure what you're asking, lol.
I'm 41 and had my last child in 1999. When I had her, I had a tubal done at the same time. I would say that the tubal was one of the 5 best decisions I ever made in my life. I was just talking to my daughter the other day about sex and how, when a woman starts having sex, it begins a lifetime of worrying about becoming pregnant. If you're not actively trying to become pregnant, that is. Even if you are on birth control, you never forget that small percentage of chance that you might still become pregnant - and god forbid you miss a pill or take a chance in the heat of passion and forego putting in your diaphragm. I feel like it has been a persistent plaguing thought virtually all of my life. Every late period is stressful. If your boobs feel different one day or you are nauseous you start with the subtle fretting - oh my god, what if I'm pregnant? Since I had the tubal though, I have not considered the possibility of becoming pregnant even once. It has been emotionally and mentally very freeing and I think I even enjoy sex more - or, I could have just hit that middle-aged sexual renaissance I always heard about, don't know. But if you are sure you do not want to have children, then I'd highly recommend the tubal ligation. Only thing is, it really hasn't affected my periods that I can tell. And I've heard very bad things about depo provera. Maybe some of the other ladies can elucidate on that.
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