I finally responded to my mom's email after seeing my counselor once again today (that's 2 sessions spent on this subject):
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Mom,
After 3 weeks of contemplating and 5 hours of discussion with my counselor I've come to the following conclusion: I love Lily, and I love my family, and will not be forced to choose one over the other. I'm sorry you feel the way you do about us, but I insist that we be recognized as a couple.
We have not resolved what our plans are for the holidays.
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I sent the email to my mom, my dad, my sister, LPM, and LPM's mom, with the original two emails attached.
My mother responded with the following, also addressed to the same people (likely to try and save face):
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Son
I am glad you took time to think about it. I know you love Lily and your family. I am not asking you to choose. I just wanted you to know how I feel.
Love Mom
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Unfortunately I still do not know what I'm doing for the holidays. Yes, this issue has now expanded on to Christmas, and future holidays as well. My counselor helped me to realize that if I do not make a stand for independence and control of my own life RIGHT NOW, it's only going to be more difficult. I just have to get up the guts to do it.
As a side note, my sister chimed in with this:
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Kevin,
I love you. I don't love her, but I have continued and will continue to treat her civilly as promised many months ago. I do recognize you as an engaged couple, but I am sorry that you have lost your individuality.
Love,
Ki
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and my dad sent me some junkmail about rednecks getting married.