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sasKuach · 11-07-2006, 03:22 PM

Hi,

I have an interesting set of questions for you all. So just a bit of background info since I don't post here even on a yearly basis: I'm the kind of guy that nearly every girl at a party has to make it her business to talk to, I've been called everything from cute, hot, handsome, etc. Usually, about 3 out of 4 girls or so seem to enjoy flirting with me, but I have a HORRIBLE time following up to get a date. How bad? I've gotten 3 first dates this year, and I'll be a 24 y/o virgin this month. Thanks, hold your applause for the end please.

Anyway, so girls seem to have this sort of "omg serial rapist pervert axe-murder gross get-a-way-from-me lol" reaction when I call/message them 2 to 7 days later. This is after we've been flirting for say, 3 hours, at a party and SHE gave me her number without me asking (or necessarily wanting it).

You're probably wondering what I say to these girls. Do I invite them back to my place to show them my handpainted Warhammer figurine collection? No. Do I show them my 4inch switchblade after they give me their number? Don't have one. Do I go on and on about Ford trucks and glasspack mufflers? You'll hear me coming, I don't have to tell you. Do I buy girls drinks expecting something in return? No, there's nothing attractive about a drunk chick. Do I follow girls around? No, they follow me around.

My question(s) to you: How much more safe and laid back can you get than meeting at a coffee shop or student lounge? Oh, and yes, I'm a student, so I'm not that wierd dude that isn't a student that hangs out with college kids. What would make YOU do an about face after giving a guy your number? I'd understand if girls just freaked out after 30 seconds or so, but 3 hours? a week after a date? What am I missing here? if you don't know the answer to these questions, at least bounce the general idea of "creepiness/wierdness" around so maybe I can spot something. Or is that not even it? What would an attractive, funny guy have to mess up to not even get a date? Should I persist more and work past what I perceive as rudeness on her part? Any input welcome. I'll be more than happy to answer any questions and don't be afraid of hurting my feelings.

Thanks,
Rob

PS:

Issues that I have:
1) I'm jealous of loser guys that have a girlfriend and expend zero or no effort on this and are thus more productive in life than I am.
2) I'm currently pissed off at girls because they get to choose who they grace with their attention.
3) I'm jealous of girls for point #2 above.
4) I feel that college (which is over in a month for me) was a huge missed opportunity which I'll never have again.
5) I have yet to meet an attractive single girl.
6) I feel like destroying a car with my bare hands due to all reasons above.

PPS:

I realize I'm SOOPER bitter right now and you're saying "I don't blame them, I wouldn't wanna talk to this pansy either" Please realize I'm not usually like this. See point #6 above.

11-07-2006, 03:22 PM	#1 (permalink)
sasKuach Tilted	How To Die a Morose Hermit: My Guide to Dating Hi, I have an interesting set of questions for you all. So just a bit of background info since I don't post here even on a yearly basis: I'm the kind of guy that nearly every girl at a party has to make it her business to talk to, I've been called everything from cute, hot, handsome, etc. Usually, about 3 out of 4 girls or so seem to enjoy flirting with me, but I have a HORRIBLE time following up to get a date. How bad? I've gotten 3 first dates this year, and I'll be a 24 y/o virgin this month. Thanks, hold your applause for the end please. Anyway, so girls seem to have this sort of "omg serial rapist pervert axe-murder gross get-a-way-from-me lol" reaction when I call/message them 2 to 7 days later. This is after we've been flirting for say, 3 hours, at a party and SHE gave me her number without me asking (or necessarily wanting it). You're probably wondering what I say to these girls. Do I invite them back to my place to show them my handpainted Warhammer figurine collection? No. Do I show them my 4inch switchblade after they give me their number? Don't have one. Do I go on and on about Ford trucks and glasspack mufflers? You'll hear me coming, I don't have to tell you. Do I buy girls drinks expecting something in return? No, there's nothing attractive about a drunk chick. Do I follow girls around? No, they follow me around. My question(s) to you: How much more safe and laid back can you get than meeting at a coffee shop or student lounge? Oh, and yes, I'm a student, so I'm not that wierd dude that isn't a student that hangs out with college kids. What would make YOU do an about face after giving a guy your number? I'd understand if girls just freaked out after 30 seconds or so, but 3 hours? a week after a date? What am I missing here? if you don't know the answer to these questions, at least bounce the general idea of "creepiness/wierdness" around so maybe I can spot something. Or is that not even it? What would an attractive, funny guy have to mess up to not even get a date? Should I persist more and work past what I perceive as rudeness on her part? Any input welcome. I'll be more than happy to answer any questions and don't be afraid of hurting my feelings. Thanks, Rob PS: Issues that I have: 1) I'm jealous of loser guys that have a girlfriend and expend zero or no effort on this and are thus more productive in life than I am. 2) I'm currently pissed off at girls because they get to choose who they grace with their attention. 3) I'm jealous of girls for point #2 above. 4) I feel that college (which is over in a month for me) was a huge missed opportunity which I'll never have again. 5) I have yet to meet an attractive single girl. 6) I feel like destroying a car with my bare hands due to all reasons above. PPS: I realize I'm SOOPER bitter right now and you're saying "I don't blame them, I wouldn't wanna talk to this pansy either" Please realize I'm not usually like this. See point #6 above.