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Gilson · 11-02-2006, 07:53 AM

So, I've been married for almost 3 years now, been living with her for 4-5 before that... She started out normal sized for a girl her height (5'10"). She went through a phase where she lost a ton of weight, and looked entirely too skinny (almost Nicole Richie/Olsen twins skinny). She got over that, started eating more normally, and got up in the 160's-170's. A little over ideal weight according to the charts, but she still looked great to me. Once she hit something in the 170's, she decided to start dieting and going back to the gym. That was all well and good, she's back down to the mid 140's, which is ideal for her height.

Problem is, she's still going. I was shutting her PC off the other night when a gmail alert popped up from fading-obsessions.com. Sounded like something dirty, so I went to the site, but apparently it's a "pro-ana/pro-mia" site, which is essentially a place for people with eating disorders to go to to get validation from other people going through that. According to her profile, her target weight is 120 which is ENTIRELY too low. She's went on some sort of "2-4-6-8" diet where you do 200 calories one day, 400 the next, 600, 800, and then back around to 200.

She's stressed out over money, which there isn't a whole lot I can do about. I've got a decent job, and she works part time for someone that pays what she'd make full time at her last job. It's not like we're starving or anything. We're paying bills on time with enough left over for dinners out with friends, movies, trips down to Atlanta for concerts and stuff. She's just getting too stressed over nothing, and that's what's causing the problem. She was even talking about getting something part-time for the holidays. I told her the extra money wouldn't hurt, but I'd much rather have her at home than out working until 10 or 11 so I'm already asleep when she gets home.

So, what do I do? Confront her about the site thing now? Don't mention it, but try to wean her off the diet thing? I haven't the foggiest how to get her to NOT stress over money, but that'd probably be the thing that helps the most. She looks fantastic, she doesn't need to lose any more weight. Moreso than the looks thing, though, I'm worried about the health aspect of it. You're not supposed to weigh 120 when you're that tall.

(Oh, and I'm aware of the whole privacy issue, too, which I feel bad about, but I'm more concerned with her well-being.)

11-02-2006, 07:53 AM	#1 (permalink)
Gilson Upright	Dieting (too much) wife So, I've been married for almost 3 years now, been living with her for 4-5 before that... She started out normal sized for a girl her height (5'10"). She went through a phase where she lost a ton of weight, and looked entirely too skinny (almost Nicole Richie/Olsen twins skinny). She got over that, started eating more normally, and got up in the 160's-170's. A little over ideal weight according to the charts, but she still looked great to me. Once she hit something in the 170's, she decided to start dieting and going back to the gym. That was all well and good, she's back down to the mid 140's, which is ideal for her height. Problem is, she's still going. I was shutting her PC off the other night when a gmail alert popped up from fading-obsessions.com. Sounded like something dirty, so I went to the site, but apparently it's a "pro-ana/pro-mia" site, which is essentially a place for people with eating disorders to go to to get validation from other people going through that. According to her profile, her target weight is 120 which is ENTIRELY too low. She's went on some sort of "2-4-6-8" diet where you do 200 calories one day, 400 the next, 600, 800, and then back around to 200. She's stressed out over money, which there isn't a whole lot I can do about. I've got a decent job, and she works part time for someone that pays what she'd make full time at her last job. It's not like we're starving or anything. We're paying bills on time with enough left over for dinners out with friends, movies, trips down to Atlanta for concerts and stuff. She's just getting too stressed over nothing, and that's what's causing the problem. She was even talking about getting something part-time for the holidays. I told her the extra money wouldn't hurt, but I'd much rather have her at home than out working until 10 or 11 so I'm already asleep when she gets home. So, what do I do? Confront her about the site thing now? Don't mention it, but try to wean her off the diet thing? I haven't the foggiest how to get her to NOT stress over money, but that'd probably be the thing that helps the most. She looks fantastic, she doesn't need to lose any more weight. Moreso than the looks thing, though, I'm worried about the health aspect of it. You're not supposed to weigh 120 when you're that tall. (Oh, and I'm aware of the whole privacy issue, too, which I feel bad about, but I'm more concerned with her well-being.)