Cynthetiq

at some point in time you cut your apron strings... sometimes with them letting go which is easy peasy, or you have to use some scissors to do it... and sometimes you just use whatever is handy to just sever them because that's what happens if you just react to it.

that said, this isn't the first time it will happen if you don't deal with it in some fashion now. It's going to keep happeing for as long as you two are together.

How did Skogafoss and I deal with it? We both told our parents not to expect us for any holidays. We won't share our holidays out of obligation, but will choose on our own who we go spend time with. This year my parents asked if we would go to Tampa to spend a last Thanksgiving with grandpa and the whole family. We obliged them. They also asked if they could come to NY and spend Xmas with us. When asking they acknoledged this isn't a ploy to convince us to get together for holidays.

In fact, we like to spend our holidays overseas, especially Thanksgiving, since European countries don't have Thanksgiving!

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