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People who live their childrens lives are severely dissapointed when their children start to take control. After all, she can't control your life anymore.
What is she supposed to do with herself? Take up knitting? Have an affair with some young man? Sometimes parents spend so much time making sure your life is okay that they forget to have a life of their own. Seriously, what does your mother do with her days other than worry about her husband and children? You can't give her activities, but at least understand that its probably part of the reason she goes batshit crazy when you don't do what she likes.
The BEST revenge on people who tell you you're 'falling apart' is to live a successful life. How ironic do comments about how much you're living wonderfully?
And LPM, maybe as a clinical dietician she has seen first hand that the majority of eating disoders ARE for attention? Some people are fucked in the head, but most do it because they want sympathy. She's an emotional manipulator, and I think you'd be hard pressed to convince her you're the former. Like I said, FROM MY DISTANCE, I'd be hard pressed to believe it too.
I'd elaborate further, but I realize that it's a sensitive topic and hardly par for this thread. On the situtation of the mother, you simply need firm discourse and an attitude that her non-acceptance of your decisions is NOT your fault, but hers.
She's the one destroying the relationship if she fails to acknowledge that you'll make your own damned decisions.
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