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Been there done that, didn't like it won't do it again.
Early on my wife and I decided that we would split up holidays as best we could and realize that someone was going to get upset. But in the end, everyone that found cause to get upset got over it and my wife and I were less stressed by not having to please everyone. These days the only one who gets their bowels in an uproar over it is my wife's mother and she's over Thanksgiving by the time anyone wants to talk about Christmas. She is over Christmas by the time anyone wants to plan New Years. And so it goes.
These days our children are nearly grown (OK two of them are adults) and we realize that it would be unfair to expect them to juggle our family as well as their girlfriends or some day wives' families.
Do what works best for you and LPM. Who you spend a holiday dinner with should not be used by anyone as a barometer of who you love or to validate your status to anyone as a couple.
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