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shesus · 10-25-2006, 04:44 AM

My mom always says that I look like her, but act like my dad. So although I'm not going to be a dad...well have kids at all...I'd probably be like him.

My dad and I aren't too close though. I think he has trouble forming real relationships while he's great at forming superficial ones. He can start a conversation with anyone, anywhere as long as they speak english and learn something about them. However, when it comes to family, he barely says a word. Ever since we got internet in 1996, he has been drawn to it and chat rooms. He's had some on-line/real life affairs using this medium. Although they didn't last because he could never leave my mom and I honestly don't think he can have a real relationship with anyone.

He and I have the same luck with jobs. He got laid off and changed jobs a lot when I was young. He finally gave up working for the man and started his own business which is barely making money, but my mom and he keep it going until he can no longer do it.

He's only cried twice that I know of and the first time I saw him cry he kicked me out of the room and said that I should not see it because it's weakness and we are strong people. He always told me when I was a little girl crying makes you sick. So because of that I feel that I am stubborn when it comes to expressing emotion of any kind.

As for parenting, he was great when I was younger. He is a kid at heart and loves toys. So I had many racetracks and block sets and a chemisrty sets. He would play with me for a long time and we had a lot of fun. We would go hiking a lot and play football. Then I got older and turned into a teenager and he pretty much became hands-off. He didn't know how to handle me. I remember one time coming home crying because a guy had dumped me and he said...shit happens, stop crying and get over it. He hated my attitude and I often had objects flying at me when I would talk back. The worst was a huge remote control for the TV.

I have seen myself be impatient like this with Alcina in the past (she is now 16). I think that I would be a lot like that as a parent overall but without the flying objects. I would want my child to be strong, independent, and friendly which is what my dad taught me.

10-25-2006, 04:44 AM	#13 (permalink)
shesus Fancy Location: Chicago	My mom always says that I look like her, but act like my dad. So although I'm not going to be a dad...well have kids at all...I'd probably be like him. My dad and I aren't too close though. I think he has trouble forming real relationships while he's great at forming superficial ones. He can start a conversation with anyone, anywhere as long as they speak english and learn something about them. However, when it comes to family, he barely says a word. Ever since we got internet in 1996, he has been drawn to it and chat rooms. He's had some on-line/real life affairs using this medium. Although they didn't last because he could never leave my mom and I honestly don't think he can have a real relationship with anyone. He and I have the same luck with jobs. He got laid off and changed jobs a lot when I was young. He finally gave up working for the man and started his own business which is barely making money, but my mom and he keep it going until he can no longer do it. He's only cried twice that I know of and the first time I saw him cry he kicked me out of the room and said that I should not see it because it's weakness and we are strong people. He always told me when I was a little girl crying makes you sick. So because of that I feel that I am stubborn when it comes to expressing emotion of any kind. As for parenting, he was great when I was younger. He is a kid at heart and loves toys. So I had many racetracks and block sets and a chemisrty sets. He would play with me for a long time and we had a lot of fun. We would go hiking a lot and play football. Then I got older and turned into a teenager and he pretty much became hands-off. He didn't know how to handle me. I remember one time coming home crying because a guy had dumped me and he said...shit happens, stop crying and get over it. He hated my attitude and I often had objects flying at me when I would talk back. The worst was a huge remote control for the TV. I have seen myself be impatient like this with Alcina in the past (she is now 16). I think that I would be a lot like that as a parent overall but without the flying objects. I would want my child to be strong, independent, and friendly which is what my dad taught me. __________________ Whatever did happen to your soul? I heard you sold it Choose Heaven for the weather and Hell for the company Last edited by shesus; 10-25-2006 at 04:47 AM..