josie333

"We don't even have a clear picture if he is sleeping with her, or if she is just a friend you are over parinoid about and he doesn't want to loose because of your parinoia."


Just to clarify the situation..... I am not over parinoid. My husband has many women friends. I am not one of those jealous women. I have good reason to have my doughts.

This woman started calling my house and I actually talked to her. The night she called the first time, He had just been asked to go to the bar with our neighbor (also a woman), he told her no because of how the owner treated someone there. He said he would never go there again.... Then D called and asked him to go that same night. He was out the door to go to the same bar. He fessed up to a lot of things. He said, D asked him to go out of town with her. Overnight...I have to give him credit. He told her how would that look to my wife. Yes, there is a lot that I am leaving out just for privacy sake.

I don't care that he has women friends. I don't ever dought him, until he starts lying. The funny thing is that he can have all the female friends he wants, but I can't have any male friends at all. I have caught him sending her emails. I have caught him having cyber sex with her. He recently got her a job at his office. So yes, I am getting a little parnoid about her. She has invaded my life and destroyed all the trust I had for my husband. When you have been with someone for 16 years you know when they are lying.

I hope that clears things up a little.

"Im noticing a pattern here, I relpied to that post not realising it was josie again. Its also 5 months old. My lack of observation. But josie if you're actually reading this why post one thing on the same kind of subject (your issues with your partners sexual discrepencies) in two threads and then not even communicate back. You've asked for advice and bolted twice. Quit playing the victim and get real or pull your finger out and have the common decency to respond to what you began in this thread."

I am not seeking anything from this. I am not a victim. I don't want smypathy. I was just looking for what others have done. I have not replied to a lot of these because I have not been checking the site. I don't spend a lot of time on TFP. I was actually just getting it off my chest. I made my decision that night. Just writing it out made everything clear for me. My post was nothing more than that.

Please forgive me for using the same kind of issue. I won't be posting anymore. I am not on the internet very often. I don't even chat so forgive me if I didn't know how this all works...

Thank you for the advice that I did get. Seems like a lot of you have gone thru this.