I am not telling you to get her drunk as a bad thing so just hear me out.
I am fairly uptight as well and have some issues "letting go"
Pan did a naughty thing and got me drunk for the first time in my life which made me.... yeah in the mood and wow... I let go... and I liked it.
Alcohol can make her not care if she lets go

Tipsy drunk not barfing drunk though ok
