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Thank you all so much for all the great replies! After reading all of this I believe that the issue is more that we don't communicate enough when we're intimate with each other. I still feel nervous when ever the clothes come off and I can sense that she is even worse than me in this sense. Everything else in our relationship is perfect, and this isn't even that bad, it's just that I don't think either of us are really comfortable with it. It didn't really make too much sense to me that there was something that I really needed to change about myself in order to make this work. I think that everything is there, but we just need to talk more and figure out what we like.
To those of you who suggested oral: This girl has never had an orgasm from oral sex, with me or any other guy that she’s been with. She's uncomfortable with it and didn't even want to do it at first. Lately though she's been warming up to it. I guess I'm just too anxious about this - I really think it just takes time for these things to work themselves out and I know there is no sense in pushing anything. The difficult thing for me is that it is so much easier for me to get off, and because she doesn't, I am left with a terrible feeling afterwards. For this reason I feel like I want to find some immediate solution and make everything OK. It would seem obvious that we should just talk about it with each other, but because I feel inadequate I have failed to ever try that. I really just have to get over that, and I am sure that I will be able to. I'm really looking forward to the next time I get to see her!
Thanks again for your great replies and please add any other thoughts that you may have on the subject!
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