Yeah, alright, I went though this...
First be honest with your girl. Relationship is about communication. If you want to deal with this...YOU HAVE TO LET YOUR GIRL KNOW! Don't keep this some secret to surprise her with...it's not going to work out that way. I am very, very serious about this.
Next, please remember that women are multi-orgasmic. If you get her off once, chances are she can get off again and again, each time being easier then the last. I used to think...one orgasm was great, now I look at is as just a warm-up.
Finally, there is The Multi-Orgasmic Man and other books like it which teach you to enjoy sex. The real key to control is to learn about yourself and enjoy the sexual experience to it’s fullest. This runs counter to the idiotic advice of thinking un-sexy thoughts and other dumb gimmicks. Education, confidence and personal knowledge is key.
This is a post written by a friend of mine from another forum…quality stuff to get started. Enjoy
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Girls have (can) have multiple orgasms. Think about it orgasm after orgasm after orgasm WITHOUT having to stop??!! Unbeleivable? Yes. Clausable? Maybe not. Possible? Most definately.
To begin your quest to become a multiorgasm male you must know and accept that an orgasm DOES NOT go hand in hand with ejaculation. Orgasms and ejaculation can be their own seperate phenomena. In order to reach this ability all that is required is a few simple exercises done daily for about a week or two (sometimes more depending on the person) as well as determination and practice.
The first thing that you must know about is the PC muscle, or puboccocceygeus muscle. This is the muscle that allows you to stop peeing mid flow. To learn how to use this muscle try putting a couple of fingers right behind/under your testicles and flex the PC muscle. You should feel it move and you may also feel your testicles pull up and your penis jump. This muscle you feel flexing is the PC muscle and is what we will be working with.
The workout routine is as follows:
Every day for about a week or two (more time may be needed) exercise the PC muscle by flexing it 20 times for a duration of 3 seconds per flex. Only flex the PC muscle do not flex the other muscles in this group such as your butt and abs. Do this every day for the whole two weeks. It is imperative that you do not forget to do it on a day through this time. The good thing about this work out is that you can do it anywhere riding on a bus, in school, talking to a friend, driving, literally anywhere. The next exercise that you will be doing is called the BIG flex. Once you feel comfortable with the 20 times start incorporating the big flex. Do your normal 20 flexes then do the BIG flex. The BIG flex is where you flex the PC muscle 10 times for a duration of 5 seconds each time. With each flex you must squeeze the muscle as hard as you possibly can.
Now to explain the next aspect that the PC muscle will be incorporated with. This is called peaks and plateaus. With this we will be using a scale of 1-10. 1 being not arroused at all maybe even turned off like after seeing your grandma and grandpa goin at it, 5 being mildly arroused such as just getting a glimpse of a very beautiful woman, 9 being the stage where you feel like you are about to ejaculate, and 10 being ejaculation/orgasm. To learn each of your stages you should practice caressing yourself to each stage such as caressing untill you are at a 5 and then backing down to what you think is a 3 and then going back up to like a 7. This will teach you where each stage of arrousal is and how much it takes to get there.
In the next step we will be using the PC muscle. There are 3 different types of PC muscle flexes I would recomend trying and seeing which works best for you. The first is just a single long and strong flex, the second is just a couple medium flexes, and the third being many rapid small flexes in a row. Decide which works best for you or make up your own.
An exercise to do with peaks is to caress yourself untill you are at a stage 5 then stopping the caressing and squeezing your PC muscle and breathing in very deeply and exhaling. This will stop the arrousal from going any higher and will decress your arrousal stage. Let your arrousal drop to a 3 then start the caressing again. This time go up to a 7 and then repeat the previous steps to get back to a 5. Then go up to a 8 and decrease back down to a 6. This is what we call peaking because you are "peaking" at each stage.
Now an exercise on plateaus. To do this its the same as peaks except when you are squeezing your PC muscle you continue the stimulation and you just "ride" this stage. By this I mean you stay on, lets say, stage 7 and you do not go up any stages as well as you do not go down any stages. This is a plateau.
If you are having trouble keeping arrousal during either of these peaks or plateaus or you simply want to get arroused faster then instead of doing a deep breath you can do a few rapid breaths which will increase your state of arrousal.
Now during one of these sessions of peaking and plateauing try getting to a level 9 where you feel like you are about to ejaculate. Right as you feel like your about to go over the edge to the place of no return flex your PC do a hard flex for about 5 seconds and take in a deep breath. This will, again, drop your arrousal down. Practice doing this. Remember if you do happen to go over the edge your still having fun. It does not mean your a failure or that you wont be able to do this. Just keep trying.
You should still be doing your PC muscle exercises and your PC muscle should be getting in pretty good shape by now. If so you are ready to go onto the next step. Also by now you may have realized that there are stages in between each numeral stage. There are stages like 5.5, 7.5, 9.5. These stages will help you in having a multiple.
Your First Multiple
To have your first multiple orgasm lets return to the peaks and plateaus. Caress your self up to a stage 5 then drop to a 4 (or plateau if you would like), then work up to a stage 7 and then drop to a stage 5 (or plateau again), then go up to a stage 8 and then drop to a stage 6 (or plateau), now we are going up to a stage 9. Do not get scared and don't panick just relax, keep all of your muscles relaxed and unflexed. Once you reach stage 9 flex your PC muscle again and breath and drop back down to an 8 or 7.5, now we are going to have the first orgasm. Increase arrousal back up to a 9. This time we are going to go to about a 9.5-10. Once you feel the ejaculation coming on and about to come out flex the PC muscle and breath in deeply but continue the stimulation. You must flex the PC muscle for around 10 seconds. The ejaculation will not come out, but you will feel the effects of an orgasm such as increased resperation, heart rate, and sweating.
*NOTE* It is IMPERATIVE that during once you reach the 9.5-10 stage and you start to flex your PC muscle and breath you MUST keep your eyes OPEN! I can not stress this enough. Also keep your mind on what you are doing do not let your mind wonder.
After squeezing the PC muscle as HARD as you can for 10 seconds the ejaculation should have subsided. You should not lose your errection (but you may go down a couple stages).
You have now had your first orgasm. You may now go on to arrousing your self to having another orgasm and or ejaculation. Do not over do it for the first time. You have plenty of time to perfect this and to have as many orgasms as you want.
When doing this while having intercourse there are many ways to control your arrousal:
1. Change your focus.
2. Change your motion. (slow down, speed up, or even stop)
3. Change the area you are stimulating ( shaft, head, etc.)
4. Take deep breaths.
5. Focus on her breathing, how you are feeling, what she looks like, etc.
If this technique does not work for you tell me and I can try posting another technique. All I have to say is continue practicing and keep that PC muscle PUMPED!
And many ORGASMS to you ALL!
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