So my girlfriend and I both lost our virginity to each other this past summer. It was fun, and for the rest of the summer we continued to have sex at least a few times a week (average of about 2 or 3). The main problem that we have is that even after getting the hang of it, I still always ejaculate before I want to, and more importantly, before SHE wants me to. I've gotten better since the first time, and by this point I can last almost indefinitely (if I want) while she is on top. Of course as luck would have it this is not her favorite position and she, having never had sex before, is a little hesitant to be the one in charge. Everything seems to work the best when I'm on top and I'm really going at it. She's extremely happy and I'm too happy. When I'm on top just thrusting back and forth I can't seem to last more than 5 minutes. This usually results in me cumming before she's even really gotten started which sucks for both of us.
I've searched and read Halx's thread on the subject, and I am going to start doing the kegals and really try and stick to them. I am just wondering really if anyone of you had the same experience when you first started having sex. How long did it take you to be able to control yourself so that you can last as long as you wanted? Does it really just take practice? Is it normal for me to still be like this after having sex for a few months? I'm uncircumcised, so does that mean it will take longer for me to desensitize?
To complicate the matter even further, we are now in a long distance relationship. We see each other about 1 or 2 times a month (different colleges) and when we have sex it is really hard for me since it has been so long since the previous time! I feel like I should get a blow up doll to practice on just to keep myself in shape! Ah this is frustrating!!!
Thank you very much for reading!
