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I have a lot of experience with friends and online relationships. Some of them have worked out and some have fallen to pieces.
Examples
A friend of mine met a Woman on a chat room from the US (we grew up in Canada) and over the course of several months, and phone calls etc they decided that they were 'in love'. However real that was is not sure to me but shortly my friend confessed he was going to ask her to marry him without meeting face to fact. This to me was just stupid. Most agreed with me, however it was his choice. He went to her home, they spent 2 weeks together and he proposed, she accepted. She married him and then took him for every cent he had and devorced him a year later.
Another friend of mine met a guy in a chat room. They lived about 2 hours apart. My friend was hesistent but agreed to meet him. They began a real relationship, and have been married now for 5 years.
So two extremes of the coin. Now my own Sister is getting involved with a guy online. I'm not happy about it. She went to go see him this weekend and I decided not to criticize her choices since she's my older sister and she's got more shit together in her life then I do (a career, paying back her debt etc). On the inside I just am not happy about it. She's never met this guy, he's put off meeting her several times coming down to visit her, now she's gone up to see him (it's thanksgiving in canada). I'm suspicious of him and know nothing about what he does for a living or anything.
Anyway it's her life.
I think that it's to easy to fake who you are on these forums. Its pretty easy to say you are one thing and be the oposite. Maybe that's the alure of the fantasy you can create for yourself on the internet. I could say I'm anything I want to be, you have no choice to take it for face value unless. When people's feelings get involved it can create a mess.
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