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Kensei · 10-04-2006, 05:30 AM

[QUOTE=Jozrael]Kensei, I heartily disagree with you.

Just because someone has different views from societal norms does not mean they have mental problems. I hear they stopped classifying homosexuality as a mental disorder in the 90s - obviously, it was just society waking up, not it suddenly becoming 'okay'. Just because someone's asexual does not mean there's anything wrong with them, at all. If they WANT to have a sex drive and they can't get it on, -then- there's a problem. But if they're perfectly content, there's no problem.

Just because you're married and haven't had sex in 17 years means nothing. Some people's marriages are based on sex, some are based on a mixture of sex and other things, some are based ENTIRELY on other things! Who are we to determine what's right for another marriage?

And just because you're a 20-year-old guy who doesn't like sex does not mean there's something wrong with you. Just because society and the media drill into our heads that we have to be raving sexual dynamos at that age does not mean that it's true.

Asexuality MAY be a choice - if you're not asexual, you really can't claim to know. I'm not, I don't claim to know. All I know is this girl says it's not a choice, it's how she is inside - don't take away her identity.

I urge you to look at www.asexuality.org before continuing to say that it is largely caused by abuse or brainwashing. They have a great deal of info there that may be illuminating.

Of course - feel free to your opinions! I just object to you labelling in one fell swoop all those who identify as asexuals as mentally deficient and calling it a negative thing.

Cheers![/QUOTE

Uh huh, well, your entitled to your opinion, but I agree to disagree with you. Sure, it can be a choice like anything. Choosing not to eat is a choice. CFhoosing to eat very little is a choice. Oh, you will become as walking mummy, but it's a choice, so there's nothing wrong with it, and since it's a choice, it's not a mental illness. Interesting logic you have.

I do not know why you brought homosexuality up, they like and have sex, so really thats not a fair comparison. As to having no sex drive, it can indeed be biochemical as well as mental, no question. Man might need Testosterone, woman might need estrogen, a shortage of both is common enough, and a sever deficiency can impair ones sex drive to the point of not having one, no question.

I did not claim that all those lacking a sex drive suffer from a mental illness, but man do my friend. And then some suffer from a biochemical imbalance, that is easily treatable, if they care to get it treated. Beyond that, choosing to actually never have sex when you have a sex drive is, well, certainly not healthy, and I would wonder at the persons reason. Oh, and if they masturbate they are certainly not asexual.

You seem to be looking for a fight, sorry, won't get one here, your of course right, as I just said, not all those who have no sex drive suffer from mental problems, but a large portion do, sorry, but they do. You seem to associate mental illness with then word stigma, as if it is somehow worse then other things, and a shameful thing. It is not, and you need to get over those nasty labels.

Anyhow, I have to disagree with you that it is normal. True, what is considered normal is too set in stone, but some things are just plain common sense my friend, don't you agree?

Well, I'm outta here, take care.

10-04-2006, 05:30 AM	#25 (permalink)
Kensei Loser	[QUOTE=Jozrael]Kensei, I heartily disagree with you. Just because someone has different views from societal norms does not mean they have mental problems. I hear they stopped classifying homosexuality as a mental disorder in the 90s - obviously, it was just society waking up, not it suddenly becoming 'okay'. Just because someone's asexual does not mean there's anything wrong with them, at all. If they WANT to have a sex drive and they can't get it on, -then- there's a problem. But if they're perfectly content, there's no problem. Just because you're married and haven't had sex in 17 years means nothing. Some people's marriages are based on sex, some are based on a mixture of sex and other things, some are based ENTIRELY on other things! Who are we to determine what's right for another marriage? And just because you're a 20-year-old guy who doesn't like sex does not mean there's something wrong with you. Just because society and the media drill into our heads that we have to be raving sexual dynamos at that age does not mean that it's true. Asexuality MAY be a choice - if you're not asexual, you really can't claim to know. I'm not, I don't claim to know. All I know is this girl says it's not a choice, it's how she is inside - don't take away her identity. I urge you to look at www.asexuality.org before continuing to say that it is largely caused by abuse or brainwashing. They have a great deal of info there that may be illuminating. Of course - feel free to your opinions! I just object to you labelling in one fell swoop all those who identify as asexuals as mentally deficient and calling it a negative thing. Cheers![/QUOTE Uh huh, well, your entitled to your opinion, but I agree to disagree with you. Sure, it can be a choice like anything. Choosing not to eat is a choice. CFhoosing to eat very little is a choice. Oh, you will become as walking mummy, but it's a choice, so there's nothing wrong with it, and since it's a choice, it's not a mental illness. Interesting logic you have. I do not know why you brought homosexuality up, they like and have sex, so really thats not a fair comparison. As to having no sex drive, it can indeed be biochemical as well as mental, no question. Man might need Testosterone, woman might need estrogen, a shortage of both is common enough, and a sever deficiency can impair ones sex drive to the point of not having one, no question. I did not claim that all those lacking a sex drive suffer from a mental illness, but man do my friend. And then some suffer from a biochemical imbalance, that is easily treatable, if they care to get it treated. Beyond that, choosing to actually never have sex when you have a sex drive is, well, certainly not healthy, and I would wonder at the persons reason. Oh, and if they masturbate they are certainly not asexual. You seem to be looking for a fight, sorry, won't get one here, your of course right, as I just said, not all those who have no sex drive suffer from mental problems, but a large portion do, sorry, but they do. You seem to associate mental illness with then word stigma, as if it is somehow worse then other things, and a shameful thing. It is not, and you need to get over those nasty labels. Anyhow, I have to disagree with you that it is normal. True, what is considered normal is too set in stone, but some things are just plain common sense my friend, don't you agree? Well, I'm outta here, take care.