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I think it's ok if you don't want to get married yet. That's normal. The question is, do you see yourself being with her for a long time and can you envisage some sort of a future together? Uncertainty on a large scale is never good in a relationship.
Love is when you're happy with the person you're with. When you're not looking for someone or something better. When there are more positives than negatives. When you feel that most of the time you really deeply understand each other and are in tune to each others' needs. Often it's putting them before yourself or your needs. It's when the other person makes you feel diferent, more alive, a better person, motivated, energetic, sexy, all rolled into one. When just touching their hand however lightly is enough to put a grin on your face. When you can hardly believe your luck that this wonderful person wants to spend most of their time with you, and they also think that you're pretty awesome too. When you don't feel scared thinking about having their children, or about just being together for however long. When, even though you may have doubts when there are problems or arguments, deep down you have no doubt that they are worth the effort. Love is a peaceful, but at the same time exciting feeling. Well that's what I think it is.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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