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sillygirl · 09-27-2006, 09:36 AM

I started a nanny job for a one year old about a week and a half ago. Mom is single and has a crazy schedule, so I get her daughter morning one day, then evening the next, except Saturdays are 11 hour shifts and Sundays are midday.

The girl is great, usually really well behaved, and a quick learner, lots of fun to be around. She also does pretty well with my son.

This is where I'm having trouble. When she's with me, she has a schedule (at least, I'm trying). Mom doesn't have her own place right now, she's getting ready to move into an apartment, so for now, her daughter comes to my house. I think this is part of the problem. Anywho, I'm trying really hard to get her on some kind of a schedule and be very consistent with her as far as rules, etc. Aside from the first couple days, we've been great with each other.

Mom, however, doesn't seem to have any schedule for her. Her daughter's schedule revolves around whatever Mom happens to be doing at the time. This includes meals, naps, and I think even diaper changes. It's happened more than once where I'll pick her up from Mom's work and end up with a hungry child whose diaper needs to be changed and who also happens to be very sleepy.

My question is this: Can anyone give me tips as to getting her on a schedule, at least at my house? I know that consistency is what she needs, and I'm working really hard to give her that. And I can, while I have her. However, when she's with mom, the lack of schedule and boundaries means that the first couple hours I have her seem to be a re-training session.

When I bring up schedule with Mom, I get the same answer: "I'll get her on a more normal schedule soon"

It's already been established by Mom also that her daughter seems much better behaved for me than with her. I know that part of it may be because I'm a new person, but at the same time, when the kid tests boundaries with me, she gets a consistent response. With Mom it doesn't seem to be that way.

Argh. Anyway, can someone help?

09-27-2006, 09:36 AM	#1 (permalink)
sillygirl Newlywed Location: at home	ack! help! I started a nanny job for a one year old about a week and a half ago. Mom is single and has a crazy schedule, so I get her daughter morning one day, then evening the next, except Saturdays are 11 hour shifts and Sundays are midday. The girl is great, usually really well behaved, and a quick learner, lots of fun to be around. She also does pretty well with my son. This is where I'm having trouble. When she's with me, she has a schedule (at least, I'm trying). Mom doesn't have her own place right now, she's getting ready to move into an apartment, so for now, her daughter comes to my house. I think this is part of the problem. Anywho, I'm trying really hard to get her on some kind of a schedule and be very consistent with her as far as rules, etc. Aside from the first couple days, we've been great with each other. Mom, however, doesn't seem to have any schedule for her. Her daughter's schedule revolves around whatever Mom happens to be doing at the time. This includes meals, naps, and I think even diaper changes. It's happened more than once where I'll pick her up from Mom's work and end up with a hungry child whose diaper needs to be changed and who also happens to be very sleepy. My question is this: Can anyone give me tips as to getting her on a schedule, at least at my house? I know that consistency is what she needs, and I'm working really hard to give her that. And I can, while I have her. However, when she's with mom, the lack of schedule and boundaries means that the first couple hours I have her seem to be a re-training session. When I bring up schedule with Mom, I get the same answer: "I'll get her on a more normal schedule soon" It's already been established by Mom also that her daughter seems much better behaved for me than with her. I know that part of it may be because I'm a new person, but at the same time, when the kid tests boundaries with me, she gets a consistent response. With Mom it doesn't seem to be that way. Argh. Anyway, can someone help? __________________ Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly-Rose Franken ....absence makes me miss him more...