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I didn't dream about physical intimacy with anyone until I actually started having sex, at age 24. And with my boyfriend then (who was also new to sex then... and who is my fiance now, 2.5 years later!), I didn't start dreaming about sex until we lived together, about 4-5 months after we got together. That was really weird.
During that time, I dreamed quite a few times about having sex with other people, and I always felt very guilty *in* the dream when I did it. I knew it was wrong, but it always ended up being an accident. Keep in mind that for me, disturbing dreams usually occur more often when I am stressed, especially relationally... that's all they are, manifestations of what's going on under the surface. I certainly wasn't thinking about cheating on my boyfriend at the time, but I was unhappy with our living situation and growing increasingly frustrated... and that came out in my dreams, I think. At least, that's my analysis. Since that time, I haven't really dreamed about having sex with other people, mostly because our relationship has grown stronger and stronger (or at least, that's the correlation for me).
When I was a lot more bi-curious (still am, but not as keenly), I dreamt about having sex with women, and I felt okay telling ktspktsp about those. But when I dreamt about cheating on him with men, I didn't want to tell him... especially if it was a friend of ours, in the dream. I didn't like my mind doing that to me without my permission... I really felt like I had cheated, even mentally, when I woke up. It almost felt like I was being subconsciously unfaithful, even though I know you can't always control these things. I guess I'm glad I don't dream about that stuff anymore.
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