I really do love you all...
Helping me through such a shitty time. We did talk about the whole moving to another state thing and he told me that he wouldn't go without me. So I guess that he isn't going, he's a little upset that he lost the opportunity at a really good job but he didn't think twice when I told him I couldn't leave home. He's just really afraid that there aren't too many good jobs that he's interested in around here, and he's never gonna get a chance if he just sticks around the sticks, where we're at now basically. I think that I might be taking the whole "I need some space" deal into consideration, although I know its gonna be really tough for the both of us!
I might have wasted too much of my time pointing out all the bad things that we're going on in our relationship at the moment in my thread. He really is a good guy (great guy in fact), and my lack of self esteem is my own doing, not his. He loves me for who I am, and me him, and treats me very well. I just wish that I could stop worrying about his stupid ex for no reason at all. I want to work out all of our issues and end up better than we've ever been before. Communication and compromise is the key I guess, I just don't wanna throw in the towel and give up on us...
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Originally Posted by analog
Re: please help me...
Since I can't post in the ladies lounge (even though I'm a mod, lol) I figured I'd send you a quick PM just to say hi, and to weigh in on your thread...
So hi!  lol
...and you've got to get the drinking stopped. Like, yesterday. It is not going to magically go away by itself, and almost always, always gets worse rather than staying constant. I know you've been with him for a year and a half, and maybe it seems like it's "not a problem", but it is. If you're fighting because he gets drunk (which you are), then he has an addiction. You seem like way too nice a person to let a guy be that way with you. Don't just do it for now, do it for your future- because the future of a guy who semi-frequently gets drunk and then is angrily argumentative is not a good future. It's a slow decline into full-on alcoholism, and it may come to eventual abuse. If you love him, help him. Help him rid himself of this addiction. Do it for both of you, and a happy future together.
Feel free to quote any of that in your own thread, if you like.
I'm pretty much always free to chat, or exchange PM's, so don't be a stranger if you want to talk things out.
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A little male insight...
