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Originally Posted by ngdawg
Uptown, took me a while, but you've posted about this and how you just don't have the drive, you have issues with your body image, etc.
This may be a tad blunt, but, if you have those issues, do you really have the right to complain he already 'took care of business'? It would seem to me he does what's expected at this point. He's of the opinion, 'why bother'...
Do you expect him to wait for you to get your passion on, especially in light of your previous posts? Turn someone down often enough or show disinterest often enough and you've basically sealed your own fate.
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my self esteem and body image took a nose dive as result of my low drve partner.He had trouble orgasming, he often would lose his erections.. the subtle and not so subtle messages was that I wasn't good enough.
At this point in time, things have changed, I got sick of basically having to beg for sex and feeling like he was somehow lowering himself to perform some distasteful chore.I no longer initiate and on the rare occasions that he does offer I politely decline. He doesn't seem upset in the least and actually appears relieved when I decline.