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Honestly.
I've only ever asked for sex once in my life with my ex of 7 years (sometime during the 5th year). It resulted in a very lame if not painful experience for me and probably her. I made a promise to never go though that ever again.
My soluction has been simple: have options. Obvsiouly those in long term relationships that wish to stay with their SO wont be able to use that advice.
I think Wiltravel and I posted advice on keeping the fires going in one thread or another. My point was generally on rewarding vs asking for sex. There are many subbtle ways men end up asking for sex and approval which does nothing but decreasing their sexual appeal.
nwlinkvxd,
Some concepts for you to brood over:
- attraction is NOT a choice
- if a person doesnt want to be happy, you can't make them happy
...tell me what you think.
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