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Everyone here is seeing the situation as I do as well.
Until your Dad is able to confront his failure and acknowledge it without passing blame to ANYONE else for ANY of his actions, then no one in your family should be living with him.
Abuse does not come in only physical forms. If he is that controlling and manipulative then he has abused your mother, your sister and obviously you are not exempt from that emotional abuse. Emotional abuse can be as damaging to a person as some phsycial abuse. Emotional abuse almost always eventually escalates into physical abuse.
I feel like everyone is entitled to one mistake. You hit someone in a fit of anger, acknowledge it was your mistake and learn not to do it again. Your father has not learned that and has lost the right to help from ANYONE in your family at this point.
Tell Dad no, that you will not help him until he is willing to accept full responsibility for his actions. Thank him for his help and look for financial aid elseware. Change colleges if you can and have to. If Dad calls or attempts to contact you in order to solicit your help then you need to tell him not to contact you unless it is to apologize and then start filtering calls and not talk to him at all. ZERO communication is crucial to protecting yourself from an abuser. I would recommend that you tell your mother this and that your mother get counseling. Be there for her and your sister.
On a side note, if your parents are having so much financial trouble, then I would recommend that you, as an adult, work to pay for your own schooling. It can be done and as a responsible adult would be the right thing for you to do.
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