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FallenAvatar · 09-11-2006, 09:31 AM

I understand concerns of the population here and I thank you for the input. I realized I did get used and I was very careful after that point; that's not what draws me to her. There were many of times when I could tell things were there between us and where I could tell things could work out, but I don't think it was the right time in life. Regardless of the chances, I know a relationship may not be the best option and I know I may never get another chance, I still want to help her.

My biggest problem with this situation is I don't need to "look" for someone that can help her. I know a possible source, my only problem is if I take this option I lose everything. Any relationship, any friendship, everything. Her family owns a rehabilitation center; you can't however rehabilitate someone who isn't willing, they just end up coming out worse then they did in the first place.

I thank you on your concerns about a therapist, but I'm going to pass; I understand your goals and ideas for that suggestion but I haven't let it go that far. I'm not a wreck, I'm just a caring person. I hate watching people fall, especially ones that I really care for.

My relationship wasn't always one-sided but I will tell you as her problem started so did the problems with us. I'm nice person and sometimes I get used, I understand that full well. I however get to points where there are certain people in my life that I care for enough to try and protect at any cost, it is a list of a very few people but they are important. Even with all the troubles we've gone through she's still a smart, loving, decent person. I care but I won't let it drag me down, but I will try to help.

The one thing I know is this. If she comes back and wants to fix things I will be willing, if and only if she's clean; if she isn't then the situation will go no farther. So in essence she needs to take the first step, being that she's over 1,500 miles away. (I thank everyone for their help, please continue I'm interested in hearing more from each of you)

09-11-2006, 09:31 AM	#11 (permalink)
FallenAvatar Psycho	I understand concerns of the population here and I thank you for the input. I realized I did get used and I was very careful after that point; that's not what draws me to her. There were many of times when I could tell things were there between us and where I could tell things could work out, but I don't think it was the right time in life. Regardless of the chances, I know a relationship may not be the best option and I know I may never get another chance, I still want to help her. My biggest problem with this situation is I don't need to "look" for someone that can help her. I know a possible source, my only problem is if I take this option I lose everything. Any relationship, any friendship, everything. Her family owns a rehabilitation center; you can't however rehabilitate someone who isn't willing, they just end up coming out worse then they did in the first place. I thank you on your concerns about a therapist, but I'm going to pass; I understand your goals and ideas for that suggestion but I haven't let it go that far. I'm not a wreck, I'm just a caring person. I hate watching people fall, especially ones that I really care for. My relationship wasn't always one-sided but I will tell you as her problem started so did the problems with us. I'm nice person and sometimes I get used, I understand that full well. I however get to points where there are certain people in my life that I care for enough to try and protect at any cost, it is a list of a very few people but they are important. Even with all the troubles we've gone through she's still a smart, loving, decent person. I care but I won't let it drag me down, but I will try to help. The one thing I know is this. If she comes back and wants to fix things I will be willing, if and only if she's clean; if she isn't then the situation will go no farther. So in essence she needs to take the first step, being that she's over 1,500 miles away. (I thank everyone for their help, please continue I'm interested in hearing more from each of you) __________________ Fetch me the spirit, the son and the father, Tell them their pillar of faith has ascended.