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Gilda · 09-09-2006, 10:00 PM

On a personal note, no, I'm not capable of loving a man romantically. It's one of the things that make me gay. When I was dating guys, when I'd have sex, I was never entirely *there* emotionally, never able to really commit either to the sexual part of it or to the emotional part of it, and for me, sex has to come with a strong emotional connection for it to feel right.

I had one boyfriend I was very close to, Ben. He was patient, kind, supportive and a considerate and generous lover. But the connection wasn't there, and it couldn't be there because he was a man, and I'd long since lost any ability to connect to men on an erotic or sexual level.

That said, is it possible? Sure. It's very unlikely that it would work out well, but it's possible and it does happen. It isn't unusual for gay men and lesbians to lead a straight life even marry and have children before fully accepting who and what they are, and in most cases they do truly love their spouses, despite not being sexually attracted to them or sexually satisfied with their love life. It nearly always ends with everyone sad, bitter, disappointed.

Gilda

09-09-2006, 10:00 PM	#7 (permalink)
Gilda 32 flavors and then some Location: Out on a wire.	On a personal note, no, I'm not capable of loving a man romantically. It's one of the things that make me gay. When I was dating guys, when I'd have sex, I was never entirely there emotionally, never able to really commit either to the sexual part of it or to the emotional part of it, and for me, sex has to come with a strong emotional connection for it to feel right. I had one boyfriend I was very close to, Ben. He was patient, kind, supportive and a considerate and generous lover. But the connection wasn't there, and it couldn't be there because he was a man, and I'd long since lost any ability to connect to men on an erotic or sexual level. That said, is it possible? Sure. It's very unlikely that it would work out well, but it's possible and it does happen. It isn't unusual for gay men and lesbians to lead a straight life even marry and have children before fully accepting who and what they are, and in most cases they do truly love their spouses, despite not being sexually attracted to them or sexually satisfied with their love life. It nearly always ends with everyone sad, bitter, disappointed. Gilda __________________ I'm against ending blackness. I believe that everyone has a right to be black, it's a choice, and I support that. ~Steven Colbert Last edited by Gilda; 10-09-2006 at 02:07 AM..