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I agree with all of these guys ^^^^
To summarize:
It is not your fault your dad hits your mom. There is no excuse for that, and, frankly, your mom was right to leave him. I don't care if it 'only' hapenned a few times.
If he wants to get back together with her, it is 100% on his shoulders to make it happen. He needs to accept responsibility for what he has done, apologize, seek *professional* help, and try to get forgiveness and heal the relationship with his wife that he has destroyed through violence.
How would you feel if you did convince your mom to get back together with him, and he hits her again? *He* needs to change. Neither you nor your mom should 'give in' to his demands.
That being said, it sounds like you're going to be financially responsible for your college tuition pretty soon, one way or another. I would start planning for that now. See what kind of financial aid you can get - you may be able to get more if you are no longer a 'dependant' of your parents...it's been awhile since I've had to deal with this, so I'm not sure what the best route for you is.
Take care of yourself right now, and your sister, and your mom. As far as I'm concerned, I'd let your dad take a flying leap...I understand he is under a lot of stress, but there's *no* excuse for domestic violence. And I'm saying this as a husband, and a father. Your dad needs to clean up his act. It's ok for you to be supportive of him, as long as *he* is doing the things he needs to do - and #1 is for him to own up to what he has done.
Wow...that was a rant...but I hope this and all the other posts warn you away from covering for what your dad did.
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