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Ustwo · 09-06-2006, 11:33 AM

You are being used above and beyond what a child should be expected to do. It sounds like he is using a guilt trip/threat of pulling your tuition as an excuse to control you.

Its assinine to expect that anything healthy can happen with you trying to get your mother to accept your father again. Thats really his problem, not yours, if they can't talk to each other and work it out, having you as a forced intermediate isn't going to be any better.

Also that 'I hit your mom because you were in China' type excuse is also assinine. Its part of the guilt trip, and maybe spending money did stress him out, but that doesn't mean you owe him by dropping out of school to save the marriage is he busy messing up.

Your first priority should be finding funds to go to school. One thing about expensive schools is they do tend to have good aid programs. Explain your situation and see what they can come up with, once your fathers income is out of the picture you may be able to do better on the aid side, though others here could most likely answer this for you. The other option is joining one of the armed forces programs, I wish I had done this as it would have saved me a ton of money and if you are worried about getting shot at, they don't put you through college so they can make you Private Ryan when you get out.

Your drug use at 11 sounds like another guilt trip, because you need to think of your sister right? I'm not sure how someone gets into drugs at 11, I would have had a hard time findnig beer at that age, but thats for your mother to monitor, you shouldn't be her father.

What I am saying is its time to be selfish on your sinking ship. First make sure you have a liferaft, then save the women and children, and last see if you can save the captain who rammed the iceburg, but only if you have room.

09-06-2006, 11:33 AM	#5 (permalink)
Ustwo Pissing in the cornflakes	You are being used above and beyond what a child should be expected to do. It sounds like he is using a guilt trip/threat of pulling your tuition as an excuse to control you. Its assinine to expect that anything healthy can happen with you trying to get your mother to accept your father again. Thats really his problem, not yours, if they can't talk to each other and work it out, having you as a forced intermediate isn't going to be any better. Also that 'I hit your mom because you were in China' type excuse is also assinine. Its part of the guilt trip, and maybe spending money did stress him out, but that doesn't mean you owe him by dropping out of school to save the marriage is he busy messing up. Your first priority should be finding funds to go to school. One thing about expensive schools is they do tend to have good aid programs. Explain your situation and see what they can come up with, once your fathers income is out of the picture you may be able to do better on the aid side, though others here could most likely answer this for you. The other option is joining one of the armed forces programs, I wish I had done this as it would have saved me a ton of money and if you are worried about getting shot at, they don't put you through college so they can make you Private Ryan when you get out. Your drug use at 11 sounds like another guilt trip, because you need to think of your sister right? I'm not sure how someone gets into drugs at 11, I would have had a hard time findnig beer at that age, but thats for your mother to monitor, you shouldn't be her father. What I am saying is its time to be selfish on your sinking ship. First make sure you have a liferaft, then save the women and children, and last see if you can save the captain who rammed the iceburg, but only if you have room. __________________ Agents of the enemies who hold office in our own government, who attempt to eliminate our "freedoms" and our "right to know" are posting among us, I fear.....on this very forum. - host Obama - Know a Man by the friends he keeps.