Talo

Here is my current situation:

My parents are getting divorced.

They have always had some difficulty as my dad is a very moody, controlling person. He is unable to handle any bad news and is quick to get stressed out and snap at people. He is not violent but he has hit me mom a few times in the past (maybe 5 or 6 times over 25 years of marriage).

Anyway a string of bad housing investments caused us to have very low cashflow and a ton of mortgages to pay. He was very stressed out and about 2 weeks ago he snapped on my mom and hit her a few times. He then left for work. My mom had enough and decided to leave the house (it happened 2 times previous which resulted in a near devorce) and take my younger sister with her.

They say they are both tired of being in the house with him and how critical and controlling he is and how they are always scared of him because you don't know if he'll be in a bad mood and take it out on you.

My dad was angry and suprised but he was convinced to move out of the house so my sister could keep going to school without my mom having to drive a long distance.

He has had enough of it though and has put it on me to get them back together. His friends and himself all agree that I am the only hope of getting them back together. Because of this my dad has told me he wants me to drop out of school for the semester and get my mom and him back together. He also says it is not right of him to be paying for my tuition while he can't even stay in his own house.

My mom has said that there is no way she will get back together with him because she is older now, I'm older and in college and my younger sister is growing up as well. She can't stay in the same house as him and can't stand to be with him any longer.

My dad views that behavior as irrational because we will lose everything he worked for to lawyers and he wants the family to stay together. This is because when they were almost divorced before is when I started smoking weed and using other drugs (was about 11 at the time) and he doesn't want that to happen to my sister (13 years old).

He also claims that one of the big reasons he hit her is because he was stressed out from me being in China all summer. He says he has spent a lot of money on my tuition and payed for my study abroad in China which contributed to his stress that caused him to hit my mom. Because he has helped me out so much he says that I owe him and need to do this for him.

I don't know what to do with this situation. I am currently enrolled in an extremely expensive college. I dropped out of housing to help lower the cost and am currently staying at a friends house near the college but not sure how much longer that will last.

This all happened the day after I returned home from China (was there 2.5 months). I am not sure what to do about this situation. Was just looking for any feedback anyone could give or shed light upon.

Thanks