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It's entirely possible to still have feelings of "love."
For me, unless it was an ugly breakup or a loooong time has passed, it's hard for me NOT to aknowledge that some feelings might remain from an earlier long-term relationship. Depends, I guess, on why you two broke up.
I still, respectfully, care about my ex-gfs (even though I don't keep in touch with them regularly). If it was a breakup for practical differences in lifestyle or personalities some element of "love" probably still remains. They can still call me for advice or a kind word. You don't have to hate someone to break up with them.
In fairness, residual feelings (e.g. "affection," "love" or whatever) are entirely normal. But it doesn't mean you have to act on them - you just accept that they're there. Over time the feelings will probably change.
Depending on your circumstances you might consider just having a cup of coffee together as friends to feel out the situation. But don't do this if it's too "early" to be objective, or if either of you is working on a serious new relationship they don't want to jeopardize.
Feelings don't just disappear - they can always come back - but it doesn't mean you have to act on them. It's better to aknowledge it and laugh it off than completely surpress those feelings.
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