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I voted that I orgasm most of the time because I wanted to be truthful about it, but my overall satisfaction level is as if I orgasmed every time. So the answer to the question "Am I satisfied with my current percentage of orgasms in my relationship?" is "Very much so!"
I do find that when the percentage is lower than about 75%, I become very frustrated and it starts to feel to me like I never orgasm, even though I still do sometimes. I guess it's just more like an on-off switch for me: over a given period of time I'm either satisfied or I'm not. It can be unfair to my partner, though, so I try to communicate it as best I can when that is happening.
As far as the importance of orgasms, I'll say first that they are very important to me (the short answer). The long answer is that my pleasure is very rich as a spectrum and deciding what is an orgasm is a matter of drawing a pretty arbitrary line in the sand. I tend to classify them as big vs. little, clitoral vs. g-spot (vs. hollistic), and relieving vs. rejuvenating. Sometimes orgasms make me tired. Sometimes they give me energy and make me need more of them. Sometimes I've had so much sustained pleasure that I never have a peak of any kind but am completely satisfied and ready to stop. I generally don't become dissatisfied with sex as long as one of those things is happening, if not more.
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