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She loves you. But she is still healing. Give her time, patience - everything you have given her. Since her whole family seems to be loving you, this appears to be a wonderful scenario. She probably sees you as having multiple options available. She doesn't seem convinced that you're interested in her for herself, and her loving sons.
Two months when a family is involved may seem like forever, but honestly, it sounds like you're making excellent progress.
All of the instances that you have brought up with being unsure about what she means by certain things, etc... you should learn to bring these up with her. Productive communication begins with realizing where incomplete communication is already occuring. You're completely on the right track. It sounds like you may be beating yourself up a little when it comes to using the right verbage. It's ok. Don't beat yourself up. Sounds like you will have plenty of time to say the right words, since you already seem to be figuring them out.
Each woman has a different communication style. This woman seems a bit insecure, like so many of us. I think that you will gain some respect by informing her of your honest opinion of her. Remove all hints of impatience from your voice (sounds like you already have) when it comes to discussing where the relationship is going. I think it is a good sign that she's not seeing other men at this point. Take that as a little trophy. Keep working on gaining trust, and communicating everything you have said to us - with her.
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