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pornclerk · 07-26-2006, 03:46 PM

There is really a lot to this story so I will try to keep it as short as possible.
I have this friend whom I am currently in an arguement with over something stupid and I am seriously thinking of calling it quits on the friendship.

I am not normally one to rid myself of someone unless they have hurt me. I have been friends with this person for about 7 years and we have a strong connection. Basically he is very manipulative. If he does something wrong he will try to find a way to convince you that he is right. He has violated my trust several times. One time he did something really bad and only apologized because I found out about it. Shouldn't a friend come to you and apologize for sake of their conscience? He also tends to be very dramatic about things, blow them out of proportion, and blame everyone else but himself. He constantly ditches our plans, but when I have to cancel he freaks out. Many times if I call him to go somewhere he will say no. I eventually just stopped inviting him to certain places because I knew he wouldn't go, but if he found out I went with someone else and didn't invite him he'd flip on me.

I have seriously been thinking about ditching this friendship for quite some time but have never really found a way to get out. With us fighting about this thing he blew out of proportion, I almost want him to be pissed at me so I can just walk away. The reason why I haven't done so sooner is because he always finds a way to win my friendship again.

Today he called me 12 times and I didn't answer it. He left messages to me saying that I was immature and I had no right to ignore his calls, meanwhile he was the one who completely over reacted.

I really don't know what to do with this. Part of me really wants out. I don't want to deal with the drama and the manipulation. The other part of me fears letting him go because we have grown so close over the last 7 years. I think about all the good things and I know that I will miss it.

Please help me! What should I do?

07-26-2006, 03:46 PM	#1 (permalink)
pornclerk Insane Location: Ontario, Canada	Friendship hanging by a thread There is really a lot to this story so I will try to keep it as short as possible. I have this friend whom I am currently in an arguement with over something stupid and I am seriously thinking of calling it quits on the friendship. I am not normally one to rid myself of someone unless they have hurt me. I have been friends with this person for about 7 years and we have a strong connection. Basically he is very manipulative. If he does something wrong he will try to find a way to convince you that he is right. He has violated my trust several times. One time he did something really bad and only apologized because I found out about it. Shouldn't a friend come to you and apologize for sake of their conscience? He also tends to be very dramatic about things, blow them out of proportion, and blame everyone else but himself. He constantly ditches our plans, but when I have to cancel he freaks out. Many times if I call him to go somewhere he will say no. I eventually just stopped inviting him to certain places because I knew he wouldn't go, but if he found out I went with someone else and didn't invite him he'd flip on me. I have seriously been thinking about ditching this friendship for quite some time but have never really found a way to get out. With us fighting about this thing he blew out of proportion, I almost want him to be pissed at me so I can just walk away. The reason why I haven't done so sooner is because he always finds a way to win my friendship again. Today he called me 12 times and I didn't answer it. He left messages to me saying that I was immature and I had no right to ignore his calls, meanwhile he was the one who completely over reacted. I really don't know what to do with this. Part of me really wants out. I don't want to deal with the drama and the manipulation. The other part of me fears letting him go because we have grown so close over the last 7 years. I think about all the good things and I know that I will miss it. Please help me! What should I do? __________________ Who wants a twig when you can have the whole tree?