Women (and men) perceive an older woman taking a young man to bed as "less dangerous" than an older man who wants to bed a young woman.
For one thing, the older woman is perceived to be in control of the situation, including birth control. An older woman of property would not been seen as wanting to trap a teeny boy into a relationship. I mean, why? He doesn't have spending power, couldn't pay child support, etc. So nobody gets hurt. And frankly, older women have always liked younger men and always had an interest in having young lovers, if they could get away with it. Now they can, and they can talk about it.
An older man starting a relationship with a younger woman wants easy sex, too -- but he's not handling the birth control end, and may not care. If the girl gets pregnant, he could split. Also, there's the psycho card: aggressive men with personality problems often seek young, submissive women.
All that said, there is a double standard in conversation. It's unfair for women to be able to make sexual comments in the workplace while men can't, because the women would feel threatened. Oh, boo hoo. If women get to talk sexually, men do, too. In your case, women are taking advantage of their freedom to talk sexually -- while holding that it's improper for men to do so.
Here's a real flash of genius: maybe everybody should just SFTU about other people's sexual desirability in the workplace, at least in general conversation. It's called professionalism.
Last edited by Rodney; 07-23-2006 at 10:02 AM..
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