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ngdawg · 07-23-2006, 09:41 AM

I don't agree with the young girls not fanticizing about older men, towit; Sean Connery, Clint Eastwood, Harrison Ford....but the old guy on the beach, never.
It's really hard if not impossible to kill the double standard-I've lived with it all my life through a lot of different eventful decades. Try unloading trucks for a living as a 20-something female. More than once the truckers would just stop what they were doing and watch me toss boxes or carry off furniture. And now, female truckers are still considered an abnormality, presumed gay, etc.
The corporate standard that a male boss is assertive but a female boss is a bitch has withstood the test of time better than the coastlines and doesn't look to dissipate any time soon. And the second standard that if she's attractive, she's probably not very smart is ingrained.
Women will have to continue to prove themselves in ways men can't fathom. It's not enough to have the degree or the muscles with us. I've actually inteviewed with a photography studio owner that, although thought my work was excellent, could not get past the point that I had kids. Would he be that stuck on one fact had I been a man? I'm guessing no, since his questions kept reverting back to that one fact regarding time available, etc.
One other point that I would like to make and that is that double-standard thinking is not just from person to person or in corporate eyes. When renewing my driver's license, I was asked to produce my marriage license. I never said I was married, I don't wear a ring-it was assumed. This would not be the case had I been a man. That one incident really drove home the double standard that is part and parcel of our culture.

07-23-2006, 09:41 AM	#9 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	I don't agree with the young girls not fanticizing about older men, towit; Sean Connery, Clint Eastwood, Harrison Ford....but the old guy on the beach, never. It's really hard if not impossible to kill the double standard-I've lived with it all my life through a lot of different eventful decades. Try unloading trucks for a living as a 20-something female. More than once the truckers would just stop what they were doing and watch me toss boxes or carry off furniture. And now, female truckers are still considered an abnormality, presumed gay, etc. The corporate standard that a male boss is assertive but a female boss is a bitch has withstood the test of time better than the coastlines and doesn't look to dissipate any time soon. And the second standard that if she's attractive, she's probably not very smart is ingrained. Women will have to continue to prove themselves in ways men can't fathom. It's not enough to have the degree or the muscles with us. I've actually inteviewed with a photography studio owner that, although thought my work was excellent, could not get past the point that I had kids. Would he be that stuck on one fact had I been a man? I'm guessing no, since his questions kept reverting back to that one fact regarding time available, etc. One other point that I would like to make and that is that double-standard thinking is not just from person to person or in corporate eyes. When renewing my driver's license, I was asked to produce my marriage license. I never said I was married, I don't wear a ring-it was assumed. This would not be the case had I been a man. That one incident really drove home the double standard that is part and parcel of our culture. __________________ Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.