Sage

I think Average_Joe has hit on something- the age of the people in the relationship and how long they've been together. Back when Martel and I were first together, we had sex like.... eight to ten times a week, and thought that's the way it was and was going to be. Now we have sex oh... once or twice a week due to working, and that's ok too, because we know WHY we're only having sex once or twice a week. It's not an "issue", it's just the way things are.

If Martel had diabeties and we'd been married for thirty years, and the diabeties had made it difficult for him to have sex, I know he'd be very frustrated and it would be a deal within our marriage. But it wouldn't be an "issue" because we'd know WHY we weren't having sex, and we'd take every step available to correct the issue. I also tend to lump anything and everything sexual, including masturbation, kissing, and cuddling naked, into "sex." I think that sexual intimacy is important and fufilling a nitche in the relationship that can't be filled any other way.

I completely agree with the roommate thing. You can be totally friendly and communicative with your husband, but if you're not even kissing each other there's 1/3 of your relationship missing.

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