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How important is sex in a relationship?
The subject line puts forth the question best: How important is sex in a relationship?
Assume all factors being the same in two identical relationships, same two people, same everything, except in one relationship one partner wants to have sex, and the other doesn't.
Can the relationship survive?
I understand that the reason behind the two people not having sex factors into the equation. As in one partner is sick, or otherwise medically unable. But for this question, assume that it is more of a sex drive issue, and not a medical problem.
I tend to believe that not having sex in an otherwise healthy relationship puts a huge amount of doubt, hurt feelings, and stress on the partner that is still wanting to have sex. To be completely rejected any and every time by someone must start to take a toll. Personally, I would be hurt at first, then frustrated, and then I would begin to resent them. Sexual drive plays the most important part in the desire to have sex, but when the desire is gone, what else is left? The desire to keep the other person happy? I don't think that is fair to the other partner that is lacking the sex drive.
Considering the two examples I gave above, the two identical relationships, how would you react? How long would you (or could you) last in your current relationship if your partner would no longer have sex with you? Would it matter if they wanted to, but there was a psychological problem preventing them; i.e. panic attacks, stress reactions? What if there was a physical problem?
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~Halx
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