Big Hugs ChasingAmy!
I know what you feel too. Sometimes I get told, just make a decision and live with the consequences. God, I can't even buy a pair of jeans without first researching all options so........
It's been nearly 2 years now since my husband moved out, and we're living in limbo. I hate it! But I hate not knowing what I want either. We've given it until end of year (2 yrs then) to either work things out or move on.
Counselling does seem like the way to go - even if just one-on-one. It'll help you really delve into what you want out of life & where you see yourself going.
A girlfriend always says to me 'you can't make someone happy if you're not happy with yourself' ..... I'm still working of this. Good Luck!!!