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Leviathan[NCV]:
a) Tell me why it is wrong? Just because we have this idea that we are individuals who are responsible for their own actions, it doesn't mean we shouldn't change at all. Success in life and relationship is much about being able to adapt.
b) And I didn't want to be a fat whiner who was broke all the time and just tried to get on with university studies without living at the same time cos that would have made me banckrupt. They are also *MY* standards I changed according to. Otherwise I wouldn't have done it. I just never thought I had it in me to make all those things so I just kept being depressed loser. Who wants to spend his/her life with somebody like that???
Even if we would split up TODAY for life, I am happy for changing. Smoking wasn't really such a part of my personality that I couldn't give it up. Some of the changes were "changes" like giving in every time he wanted sex untill we got both got happier and he started to care about again if I want it or not. And yeah, he changed in some ways I wanted him to. He strated respecting me more again, quit yelling and pushing me ariound and make the initiative to say "sorry" more often.
All in all, I won and didn't lose anything I didn't want to. You can keep your opinion, specially since I didn't ask for one. The thread was about Memalvada's situation and while there was so little info that I can't say does it compare 100% or 90% or even 70% to my situation, I wanted to bring out the fact that many couples have to work on it together to make things work and people do split and get back together and get it right the 2 nd time around.
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