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Originally Posted by ngdawg
While I can understand the hesitation to reply, I have to ask-is your disregard for answering a social study to see how she progresses or just because you don't know how to respond?
Asking an honest question would not be out of line, ie; ' how come you're writing after X amount of silence?' Nor would an honest answer to any of her questions be out of line, ie; 'sorry if I haven't replied. I wasn't sure, given our history, how to proceed.'
Personally, regardless of history, I just treat everyone as a friend and proceed from there. If they're looking for more, it's easy enough to steer them in another direction with a 'sorry, I don't see us that way' and let them do whatever they have to. If they really are friends and not acting with ulterior motives, you'll know pretty quickly.
Either way, ignoring, even with a less than stellar past, is rude-treat others as you would expect to be and you'll find your answer.
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I agree, although I figured after being ignored for 2 years, I was justified in ignoring her attempts at communication over a week span, if only as a means to see what the results would be. And they have been quite perplexing.
To answer the question you posed, I would say my lack of response is intended to be both a social study and also a result of how I can respond in a way that expresses the uncertainty regarding her lack of replies and where we stand as friends, given the means provided: text messaging. If oral communication was a reality, then I think I definitely would be more inclined to discuss the situation, however, she has not answered her phone, and does not have voicemail, so that leaves text messaging as the only means for communication, which is extremely limiting and very lacking for anything but the most trivial issues.
I am very proficient at, and truly enjoy, talking in person, but if the means for discussion are crippled to the level of texting between phones, it's very hard for me to see any progress being made.