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Originally Posted by neflyte
She told me once that she's the type of person that "waits for the ball to drop". I think that's what I find myself doing as well. I'm just waiting for her to find some reason to break it off, even though I don't want it to end.
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I'm thinking that this really is just all in my head. I mean, she's made some nice plans for our 3-year anniversary already, and its not for another 1.5 months. I know she wouldn't do this if she weren't happy with our relationship.
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Is she really like that all the time (waiting for the ball to drop)? Do you think it applies in this context? How can you know for sure that her planning an anniversary celebration 1.5 months in advance means that she's happy? Some people do that kind of thing because they're busy still trying to convince themselves that they are.
Here's a real good example of what I'm getting at...
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Originally Posted by neflyte
There's always a legitimate reason for changing plans. I just think the worst of it.
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Yes, it's true that there's always a legitimate reason for changing plans. One reason could be that she wants to meet other people and decide whether or not she wants to be with you. From what you've written, I can't tell whether or not you're just thinking the worst of it for no reason, or if your distress over this is warranted. Does she say that she can't make it and then not offer or refuse to answer you with her reasons? Or does she give you a reason you would find acceptable, but you just don't believe her? It's important to know which it is - because one answer is the result of
her actions and the other is the result of
yours. One answer means that your relationship is probably doomed anyway, and the other means that you just need to stop thinking about things so much and just enjoy yourself (not to mention be more trusting of your girlfriend).