Originally Posted by Swirlie

I think this has been said in this thread (although not clearly) so...

I think you need to really express yourself and tell him you just need to be listened to. That's it. Full Stop. No "I think..."... No "If I were you..." Just shut up, listen, and then cuddle.

He needs to understand you. If he feels uncomfortable, let him know that it's part of you. The same way you would tell him you hate pork and beans, or that you love chocolate. It's part of the package. If he can't deal with it, it's on him.

The best thing I ever learned from an ex (unfortunately) was that I didn't always have to comment on what she was telling me... or try to fix it. Sometimes... I just needed to shut my damn mouth and open my damn ears.

It's NOT easy for us men to do...