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ChasingAmy · 07-09-2006, 10:09 AM

January 2005 I had an affair. I promptly confessed to my wife what happened. We fought and talked. The reason I did it... opportunity is what it came down to. My wife was far away in the town we were moving to and I had stayed back to work full time to the end of the year. Two or three months total. At that time I felt the need to escape. To get away and live my own life. Travel. See what the world had to offer me. We talked some more. I decided to stay. Different factors attributed(?) to this. I thought I was living the happy life...

Well here I am again.

Is it strange that all I really want right now in life is to be alone? In solitude? I think some time by myself would give me great opportunity to reflect on what I have done with my life... and what I want to do with it. It all seems right in my mind.

I am at a different place than my wife is right now. The pressure of kids... and now the purchase of a house are really freaking me out!! And as simple as it is for her to say "We don't have to have kids right now." or "We don't have to buy a house right now." For me there is a lot more to it than that. I practically got married out of high school. Living with her from the start (8 years). 3 Years ago when we got married it seemed so right then. But now not so much. I am being lazy maybe... I don't want life to be so complicated right now. I guess I just want to escape and do my own thing right now without having to worry about anyone else.

Does this sound shallow? Only thinking about my own well being? I am so lost. There is so much that I feel I can experience yet.

Is this a pre-mid-life crisis? Is this normal?

Dazed and confused...

Kris.
Cheers.

07-09-2006, 10:09 AM	#1 (permalink)
ChasingAmy Single :) FFA Location: Prince George, British Columbia	Trapped in a marriage. Wanting out. Any help? January 2005 I had an affair. I promptly confessed to my wife what happened. We fought and talked. The reason I did it... opportunity is what it came down to. My wife was far away in the town we were moving to and I had stayed back to work full time to the end of the year. Two or three months total. At that time I felt the need to escape. To get away and live my own life. Travel. See what the world had to offer me. We talked some more. I decided to stay. Different factors attributed(?) to this. I thought I was living the happy life... Well here I am again. Is it strange that all I really want right now in life is to be alone? In solitude? I think some time by myself would give me great opportunity to reflect on what I have done with my life... and what I want to do with it. It all seems right in my mind. I am at a different place than my wife is right now. The pressure of kids... and now the purchase of a house are really freaking me out!! And as simple as it is for her to say "We don't have to have kids right now." or "We don't have to buy a house right now." For me there is a lot more to it than that. I practically got married out of high school. Living with her from the start (8 years). 3 Years ago when we got married it seemed so right then. But now not so much. I am being lazy maybe... I don't want life to be so complicated right now. I guess I just want to escape and do my own thing right now without having to worry about anyone else. Does this sound shallow? Only thinking about my own well being? I am so lost. There is so much that I feel I can experience yet. Is this a pre-mid-life crisis? Is this normal? Dazed and confused... Kris. Cheers. __________________ Don't you know about the bird?