Sultana

Well, I can see how you have (like many people), taken for granted something that is a large part of your emotional foundation. When that's been shown to not be as unshakeable, as stable as you thought, it's a shock. Then if/when you get it back you constantly want to test it, and convince yourself that it can "bear your weight", your trust. This is completely understandable, and normal.

However, you don't want to let that cripple you. It's important to get into a more self-sufficient emotional state, and then decide if you are going to trust that person again. Also, it's a real good idea to be aware that you shouldn't take people for granted. There's a big different between trust, and taking them for granted.

I can also recommend a good book on working on co-dependency: The Language of Letting Go, by Melody Beattie. If you think you might be co-dependant. It's actually quite a good read, regardless. It gives a lot of concrete, active suggestions for thought-process evaluations and modifications.

Good luck, man. Give us updates, OK? It's really nice to get feedback on our thoughtful advice.

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